Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Do you fly solo or are you one of the rest of us?

I love surveys! For no reason other than its entertainment.



Surveys are the media or Corporate America’s way of getting permission to gain access into other people’s privacy. I tend to laugh, grumble and or find interest in the way the average person acted last night, several months ago or years before this current day was put into play.



How about primetime news or Larry King reports that claim, “Our phone lines are open…let us know how you feel. So far 35% of women between the age of 25-40 with three point six cats and a dog named Mercury say blank, blank, blank. ”



How many people truly call in? I used to man the phones of a highly touted award winning talk show…after a week I knew everyone’s first and last name knowing very few of them had a dog named Mercury but they did have cattle in Florida…only because a survey told me so.



The majority of the circles we keep are kept alive by a need to be anybody but the real you. Survey’s give you the clearance to make mistakes already made by other people…suddenly there’s togetherness…you aren’t alone.



From the book Speaking from the Heart, author Lou Solomon posed the thought: Fear of appearing emotional…do things matter at work?



Survey says! Most people believe they speak from the heart only if they're with a small group of people they know. Leaping into second place is the idea of being transparent and how rare and bold it is and very few openly admitted that being emotional is a sign of weakness.



Where do you fit in? Writing on several web pages while doing radio shows in markets of many, it’s natural to assume I dig being with large numbers of thought provokers. I thoroughly enjoy speaking from the heart…once there, I spend 80% of my day trying to explain that everything written has “nothing” to do with people I know and love and everything to do with presenting a peaceful platform for people I’ll never meet.



Survey number two: Fear of losing control…do you want to be in control when you speak?



Second degree black belt in martial arts it’s only natural to assume I have this one mastered. The top answer from the national survey unveils that most people believe losing control is a sign of caring but you need to learn how to keep it together. Coming in at number two are the coworkers and family members who are tied up with their personal battle with self control and have no time to connect with others. Number three….no time what so ever to apologize for losing control.



Which one are you?



Business is business right? Money making can make business personal. Survey says! Topping the charts is the mindset that unfortunately it’s the way of the world. Not too far in second is a digestible reply—the best business people don’t distinguish between personal and work behavior. Number three business is business.



Thanks to Mr. Fox, the one thing I discovered in High School Government class was the solid white line sunk into the soil between church and state. I am not and never will be a radio person at home. I can’t stand it when neighbors call me Arroe…say Dude, Hey or Yo…make up a name, good, bad or ugly…please leave radio in the speakers it came from and not in the place where being real is more important than wrapping up another twenty songs in a row without talk.


When you walk into Martial Arts University you won’t see the radio name plastered to the black belt wall. Being a disc jockey has nothing to do with the sweat that pours into my passion to study a 2,000 year old way of life and living.



Today is The Great American Grump Out…a survey must have pointed the way for early risers to assume the workplace is filled with too many in a bad mood and that by identifying such a display of emotion might in fact invite peace. Does that mean admitted grumps get to go home early like most offices do during Christmas and Thanksgiving?



I’m being too cliché…is there such a thing? Lou Solomon’s survey gives us three ships to look at: Once in a while it’s the thing to do. It takes guts to speak not only from the head but from the heart and it sounds sugar coated.



Which one are you? Survey says!



arroecollins@clearchannel.com

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