Someone wins $243 million dollars in the Power Ball Lottery—is it good luck or being in the right place at the right time? A near collision on a backstreet or major freeway—good luck or a wake up call? The family dentist gently explains your child’s smile will improve his or her confidence—good guy or someone out to make a quick buck?
What is the secret of winning during this ever-changing game of life?
Dr. Joyce Brothers doesn’t believe in good or bad luck—fortune or misfortune arrive through hard work and preparation which enables your mind, body and soul to take advantage of life’s big opportunities as they are presented to you.
If you draw a chalk line around the presence of your current moment—where you are today will be remarkably different tomorrow. Be it up, back, to the side or light years farther from your childhood goals the roads and paths used to attain the ability to be seen were governed solely by your efforts and or lack thereof.
Dr. Joyce feels you should clarify your aspirations.
What do you really want out of this short term journey? Before any dream is given fuel to become a reality, you’re required to identify them. It’s a horrible situation to be in because most of us find such discoveries as being too broad so we tend to waddle and wade our way through ponds of oh that was nice without putting focus on what it is we really want to do.
A great exercise: Without thought—write down three things that come to your head. Look at it several times before putting in a box or envelope. Repeat the process three times a week over the next six weeks…the end result will be a pattern.
I knew as a child radio would become my life and style. Jokingly I’ve always said Eric Clapton picked up a guitar to create thoughts I can deliver over the five second intro of a song. He creates cd’s and mp3’s and I create headaches for program directors who’ve never been able to figure out why I can’t say. “Here’s another fourteen in a row without talk.”
Once inside the ranks of whatever it is we do a truer picture was unveiled allowing me to believe more in the sport of gibby gab. Sadly, the mall store architect, long haired rock star, professional bowler, author of four hundred books, school teacher and artist spotted in galleries in California were forced to sit in the seats located in the balcony.
Through exploration, the exercise Dr. Joyce speaks of has allowed the middle aged adult shell to still be a fun loving kid inside.
Master the art of power reading: Almost every goal we set involves the improvement of self—through careful study and planning, we learn from the Anthony Robbins and John C Maxwell’s of the world. The problem with this design is very few people have the desire to complete the circle. Absorbing written material is a big pain!
Stepping into a book store with me is a horrible nightmare…if those pages aren’t calling out my name that means I’ve got to make a concerted effort to face the author’s thoughts. This involves opening the book, skimming the chapters then quickly turning the book over to read how others have reacted to his or her presentation. Why don’t publishers print the bad comments? I really want to do that with my new book “Conversation” because it forces the reader to stop judging it by its cover.
If it sells that’s good luck…if not oh oh…more bad luck.
Not if you invest in developing what Dr. Joyce calls the Halo Effect—it has nothing to do with goodness or godliness but rather feeds the effects you have on others. Your life and how it’s handled is nothing more than a fingerprint left at a crime scene. The impressions you create generate what could come across as good, bad or whatever that person is thinking the moment you meet.
Building a firm halo effect requires the ability to appear knowledgeable—before meeting new people do what we do in radio…show prep. You aren’t a know-it-all but rather someone who is informed and well read.
Be on time—life isn’t California…fashionably late doesn’t make you look cool—you’re late!
Get the person’s name right. My name is Arroe as in arrow not Earl, Harold, Errol, Kevin or Mickey. When you land your plane on the proper runway, use their name during the conversation—but wait! Don’t talk too much! Don’t interrupt! Silence is power especially when you’re attentive.
And hold off playing the flattery card. If it doesn’t spin from the webs we keep in the heart you’re words are falling short of adding purpose to your delivery. Nothing turns me off more than hearing, “You’re the man! You’re the best! You’ve got talent!” The flattery game will get you no where unless you learn to recognize real areas of interest. Appreciate the aspects of other people’s personalities by being confident in yourself to recognize what it is you truly see.
Ryan Seacrest isn’t the biggest and best in radio and television nor is he the luckiest man in the broadcast industry. What we fail to remember is how he got to the circle to which he currently stands. His vision of reaching Los Angeles can still be heard in the halls of a radio station in Atlanta, GA. He remained focused and loyal to the edges of the horizons he wanted to paint. By taking a chance on a new show out of England called American Idol he’s grown through its popularity allowing his gift of performance to be showcased in almost every corner of the world.
Fortune or misfortune arrives through hard work and preparation which enables your mind, body and soul to take advantage of life’s big opportunities as they are presented to you.
Just one of the secrets of winning during this ever-changing game of life.
Steal my art…
arroecollins@clearchannel.com
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