During a four hour lecture last night I opened the floor to questions, “How do you react to someone who’s lost their confidence?”
Anyone close enough to truly know me realizes early in the journey the voice you hear slipping from the lips of a six foot Montana raised cow pie is more of an actor than decision maker.
To be a DM demands confidence. DM’s hoist flags over stolen soil from spur of the moment business partners. Being a DM mobilizes the energy of connected paths while determining the assumed outcome before unmasking what should’ve taken place. DM’s are forced to take blame when shame came from players not in the real game.
Confidence isn’t my weakness. Displaying it is.
If knowing the way is where the finger is pointed, shrugged are the shoulders, “Cool…lets do it.”
You’ll never catch me attacking amusement park attractions that instantly drop from the sky. I can’t even pee in a public bathroom. That requires confidence.
Ask me to help shape your image within the waves that splash across the face of radio and ignited isn’t confidence but passion. Suddenly there’s an identity crisis!
Having passion doesn’t pay the Time Warner Cable bill. Too much time is wasted trying to convince DM’s your value. Multitasking has turned us all into mulit-talented performers but those sitting in the shoes of DM’s forgot to purchase the 3-D glasses.
When what you give away isn’t appreciated the first thing tossed to the lions is confidence. We spend it like a fresh scented five dollar bill unexpectedly located in a pair of jeans washed on Tuesday.
Passion is passion. 90% of what we do feed the roots of making sure passion is kept alive. The other 10% comes into play when passion has knocked you to your knees and today doesn’t seem to be the day you’ll find the energy to pick that a** up.
From confidence comes enthusiasm. Without confidence cable television, texting, Face Booking, surfing the web, slamming down Red Bulls, hitting the night scene with only ten bucks in your banking account becomes a legalized drug. We figure out ways to score a free high.
How do you react to someone who’s lost their confidence?
I listen…
If the two most dangerous places for the business of martial arts is when students are first introduced to the white belt curriculum and later green belt…where are the higher belts to help nurture the mind that’s began to wander?
A black belt doesn’t spar a white belt to inflate a need to win, win, win! He or she puts focus on instruction through listening first. Doubt is a disease. Having doubt is contagious. Doubt is no different than a hearty yawn. Within seconds it’ll wrap around the entire gang hanging for a good time until a buzz kill pops up with a stretch combined with a well deserved, “ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.”
Uncross your arms. That’s the first sign of having no confidence. Your hands were designed to clear paths not smell like armpits.
Become loyal to the basics and confidence will fertilize dreams.
Thirty two years in radio and you’d think I’d have this on-air thing mastered. Being in market number 24 is a daily reminder that there are 23 three other cities better than this chosen path. My confidence suffers.
In July 2009 I was eight private black belt classes and a grueling but extremely fun test from being recognized as a 3rd degree. My eating habits won; fast food causes heart disease. Although I fought extremely hard to keep connected to my passion of being a martial artist a required confidence failed me to the brink of physically entering class with no belt…leading to a one year disconnection.
How do you react to someone who’s lost their confidence? Know what having no confidence is before reacting. Understand that demands might be met but only through passion. Like tooth decay a lack of confidence has the ability to sicken the mind, body and soul.
Listen then reintroduce the basics.
James Tamm patiently waits while my injured martial arts spirit catches up never realizing how he instructs is being carried to my writing, art on canvas, commercials created, music performed and or just shaking hands with a movie freak in it for the vibe…his recharging of confidence is passed forward. Therefore if a seven second on air break has burped up a giggle assumed lost because of your bad day…how it got there comes from the people before us…Mr. Tamm leads by way of wanting to be led the same.
How do you react to someone who’s lost their confidence?
From listening comes confidence which creates enthusiasm. From enthusiasm we locate a need to discover. Art from you isn’t to be kept from the world for what you create always has the energy to inspire a smile in the heart of someone or something that’s lost the way.
The mission is to listen…
arroecollins@clearchannel.com
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